Wednesday, March 26, 2008
Tuesday, March 11, 2008
Saturday, March 1, 2008
Ten tips to overcome communication conflict in a relationship
- Learn to express your feelings your feelings and frustrations honestly, but without accusing or attacking the other person.
- Choose words, expression, and a tone of voice that are kind and gentle. Do not use speech that could easily offend or spark an argument.
- Do not exaggerate, distort, or stretch the truth. Avoid extreme words like never and always.
- Give actual and specific examples. If necessary, make notes before you communicate. Stay away from generalities.
- Commit yourself to seeking solutions instead of airing your grievances. Getting even is not the goal – you want to get things resolved.
- Listen to what the other person is saying, feeling, and needing. Try to detect his or her underlying concerns.
- Refuse to indulge bitterness, anger, withdrawal, or argument. Though these emotions are normal, indulging them is sin.
- Do not hesitate to acknowledge your own failure, and be quick to forgive the other person. Make sure you do not hold a grudge.
- Keep talking and asking questions until you are sure that you both understand clearly with the other saying and feeling. Encourage each other as you press toward a solution.
- Train your mouth and heart until you can say the right thing at the right time and the right way for the right reasons.
Friday, February 29, 2008
63 Questions
2. Last thing you bought? …scarf and belt
3. Last person you argued with? …mom
4. Do you put Butter before putting the jelly on? …nah
5. One of your stuffed animals' names as a kid? …’twas a friend’s gift. I called him Rusty.
6. Did you ever own at one time a Nysnc Cd? …nevah! hehehhe
7. Favorite day of the week? …Sunday
8. Favorite Sundae topping?: …chocolate syrup and peanut crunch
9. Did you take Piano lessons? …nah
10. Most frequent song played? …love songs and R&B
11. T.V. show you secretly enjoy? soap operas..hehehe
12. Would you rather play basketball or hockey? …hockey
13. Date someone older or younger? …yep!
14. One place you would wish to travel right now? …Paris
15. Do you use umbrellas? …yep!
16. Do you know all the words to the Canadian national anthem? …none in particular
17. Favorite Cheese? ...all
18. Disturbed or My Chemical Romance? …both
19. Do you prefer Blondes or Brunettes? …brunettes
20. Best job you ever had? …engineer
21. did you go to your high school prom? …won’t dare to miss one!
22. perfect time to wake up? …6 am
23. perfect time to go to bed? …midnight
24. do you use your queen right away in chess? …nah
25. Ever been in a car accident? …bicycle. heheheh
26. closer to mom or dad...or neither? …both
27. what age is this exciting life over for you? …teens
28. what decade during the 20th century would you have chosen to be a teenager? …90's
29. Favorite shoes you have EVER owned? …all
30. Do you have an article of clothing you have had since you were in high school? …none
31. Were you in track and field? …nope
32. Were you ever in a school talent show? …nope
33. Have you ever written in a library book? …I guess
34. Allergic to? …Alaxan pain reliever
35. Favorite fruit? …green mango
36. Have you watched sex and the city? …yep
37. Baseball hat or toque? …baseball
38. Do you shampoo first in the shower or soap? …shampoo first
39. Wet the toothbrush or brush dry with the toothpaste? …wet the brush first
40. Pen or pencil? …pencil
41. Have you ever gambled at a casino? …once
42. Have you thrown up on a plane? …not yet. hehehe
43. Have you thrown up in a car? ...no
44. Have you thrown up at work? …no
45. Do you scream on roller coasters? …oh yes!
46. Who was your first prom date? …never mind
47. Who was your first roommate? …my sister
48. What alcoholic beverage did you drink when you got drunk for the first time? …vodka
49. What was your first job? …engineering assistant
50. What was your first car? …Do I have one? hehehe
51. When did you go to your first funeral? …dont remember
52. How old were you when you first travelled away from your hometown? hmm..12 I guess.
53. Who was your first grade teacher? …Ms andes…heheheh
54. Where did you go on your first airplane ride? manila
55. When you snuck out of your house for the first time, who was it with?: …just me
56. Who was your first Best Friend and are you still friends with them? …Ara. Yep, we remain friends.
57. Where did you live the first time you moved out of your parent's house? …Cebu
58. Who is the first person you call when you have a bad day? …a friend
59. Who's wedding were you in the first time you were a bridesmaid or a groomsmen? …can’t remember
60. What is the first thing you do in the morning? …eat my breakfast
61. What was the first concert you attended? …don’t remember
62. First tattoo or piercing? …ear piercing
63. First celebrity crush? …Tom Cruise
people to tag: Ruthie, Laura, Medhy, Sheen, and Vans
Monday, February 25, 2008
Rain, rain go away!
I love it when it starts to rain, especially after the long spell of steamy, hot weather. I just find it irresistible to stare at the grasses that almost instantly turns from a light brown to a soothing pistachio green while the plants would perk up, making the garden a heaven to view. The smell of the rain is delightful and the way it drops off the ground seems like music to my ear.
taken last February 22, 2008
Sunday, February 24, 2008
6 Quirky Things About me
The rules: Link to the person that tagged you. Post the rules on your blog. Share six un-important things/habits/quirks about your self. Tag 6 random people at the end of your post by linking to their blogs. Let these random people know that they are tagged by leaving comments in their blog.Let your tagger know when your entry is up.
Six Unimportant things/habits/quirks about my self.
1. I always want my top to match the color of my footwear.
2. hate mess.
3. Shower time takes an hour.
4. I love sleeping.
5. loves to wear pajamas at home.
6. Before bed time, I put petroleum jelly on my lips.
6 people to tag:
Shammy,
Tuesday, February 19, 2008
His love...
It was then when I saw him, in the middle of the dance floor. I could never forget those eyes, those beautiful and soulful eyes, making me weak inside. I would give anything for a kiss, just one kiss and I know in my heart everything will be alright.
He was just so perfect, dancing. Then I saw her. He was just staring at her, so oblivious to their surroundings. They look good together. And then I realized my tears were falling down my cheeks. I am crying. I am actually crying because the man of my dreams is dancing with the woman of his dreams. It hurt so bad that I could cry all night but couldn’t blame him, for he doesn’t know me. He doesn’t even know I exist. I love him from a distance because he doesn’t know me. He just doesn’t.
Saturday, February 16, 2008
Untitled
Love has its own wings to set free, so it will always find the right place where it should be.
To let go is really hard, so I’m leaving you with these lines… I was suppose to write you a letter then but just couldn’t find the right words to say. Glad I came up with these lines. And since you didn’t get the message, I’m posting it this time. I had it titled, Untitled.
Untitled
The feelings started for no reasons. I just felt it, and even if I wasn’t sure about how you feel, still, I took the risk. I was thinking that the more love I offer you, the more love there could be on offer. But this didn’t work. Maybe, I was trying really just hard to make you love me. The more I tried working on it, the less likely I have gained from your love. And it just didn’t work. I actually don’t know if you did love me. I hope so… And perhaps, you just simply have fallen out of love. It is really never easy to tell someone that you are no longer in love…so you never did! But if only you just told me that you love her more... If only you have said that you needed her most, perhaps there will be no anger and I guess there’ll be less pain. I was more than willing to see you happy with someone else than be with me for anguish.
I know I tried to hurt you… I’m sure you wouldn’t understand why I kept hurting you with those cruel words. I actually never meant to hurt you. But I was hurt, and it takes me a long time to ease the pain. I often cry, hoping that this will try to alleviate the pain. Unfortunately, it does not and will not indeed. The pain that is felt emotionally seems like unbearable. And I know this will take me a long time to trust someone again. But it’s fine; seeing you happy is more important. Certainly, this will help me become a better person. I really wish I could accept it at once… But I just can’t. Apparently, things will exactly be just fine in the end. Soon, I will learn to accept things.
Sad love really seizes the pride and the heart to heal much longer. Yet, it is much better to fall in love than to fall out of love. So I’m leaving you with love… Let me treasure the love we had without regrets. You can do your thing now and so will I. And if by chance we found each other again, and there is love. Then it’s beautiful! I just can’t bear the pain right now… and I must go.
